For those who do not like their own “psychological portrait”, there is a consolation: the shortcomings of temperament can be filled with positive traits of character.
It is the understanding that you can change yourself for the better is the most attractive feature of psychology as a science.
So, if temperament is innate personality traits, then the character a person educates himself. Making a deed, we each time strengthen or weaken some of its features.
Thus, you can correct even the most bad temper.
Regarding temperament, we can only recall that Hippocrates has divided it into four types, which are still used today:
- Phlegmatic - unhurried and imperturbable;
- Choleric - hot-tempered and unbalanced;
- Melancholic - impressionable and vulnerable;
- Sanguine men are lively, mobile and funny.
In more detail about the types of personality in general and the types of temperament in particular, we have already written.
What is character
Character (Greek. χαρακτηρ - a sign, distinctive feature, sign) - the structure of persistent, relatively permanent mental properties that determine the characteristics of the relationship and behavior of the individual.
The word itself is translated from Greek as "imprint", "chasing". This is the invisible core of our psyche, on which other properties and personality traits are strung.
In the system of relationships of personality, there are four groups of character traits:
|TEAM GROUNDS||POSITIVE FEATURES OF CHARACTER||NEGATIVE FEATURES OF CHARACTER|
|RELATION TO OTHER PEOPLE||Sociability, sensitivity, responsiveness, respect for other people.||Closure, callousness, rudeness, contempt for people.|
|ATTITUDE TO WORK||Diligence, accuracy, a tendency to creativity, good faith in work, responsible attitude to business, initiative, perseverance.||Laziness, tendency to routine work, bad faith in the performance of work, irresponsible attitude to business, passivity.|
|ATTITUDE TO YOURSELF||Self-esteem, sense of honor, self-criticism, modesty.||Self-conceit (sometimes turning into arrogance), vanity, arrogance, touchiness, shyness, egocentrism (as a tendency to view oneself and one’s experiences in the middle of events), egoism.|
|ATTITUDE TO THINGS||Neatness, careful handling of things.||Carelessness, negligent treatment of things.|
And one more classification that will help you systematize your knowledge on this topic. Here is proposed the separation of character traits by properties.
In total we have 4 groups (emotional, volitional, moral and intellectual):
It is easy to guess that the character traits of the child develop in close connection with the society in which he is brought up, family, nationality, religion and life principles that guide the parents.
But what to do if you are already an adult, and your character does not satisfy your inner needs? You need to start working on it yourself.
First you need to think about what kind of character trait creates problems for you in your life. This is an extremely important moment. Consider it on the example of laziness.
Too lazy to work, too lazy to do sports, too lazy to engage in personal development. Or maybe it's just a fear of difficulty?
Set a goal
Fight with negative character traits will help. The main thing is to send it, and for this it is necessary to determine the goal. By the way, we have already written about 3 important steps towards the goal. To overcome laziness, as a goal, you can choose any case that requires constant work on yourself (for example, learning a foreign language).
We make a plan of action
Now we need to take one more step: draw up a plan of action. And you can’t retreat from it: if you decide to learn ten new foreign words every day, you have to keep your word. In a separate article, we debunked the myths about learning English.
We fix the results
The results of their struggle is better to record. You can make a table and record successes and failures there every day. Or do this: mark two cities on the map. One will conditionally denote your current state, the second - the goal.
Every time you do something to improve your character, put a new point on the path between these cities. And if you miss something - go back to the point.
In terms of personal development, the Benjamin Franklin moral perfection plan is very interesting. Be sure to read about this great man whose experience can provide you with invaluable help.
Surely the reader may ask: do the genes of a person influence the formation of the personality and its individual traits?
It is quite difficult to answer this question unequivocally. Certain connection in the inclinations and characteristics of behavior between children and parents, of course, can be traced.
However, to argue that "I can not be otherwise, because this is my mom or dad", for an adult, at least, frivolous.
It is believed that the temperament can not be changed, but the traits of character - it is under the force of anyone who wishes. You only need to have the determination to do this business.
Accentuation of a character is a characteristic of a character within a clinical norm, in which its individual features are excessively strengthened, as a result of which a selective vulnerability is revealed with respect to some psychogenic influences while maintaining good resistance to others.
The definition of the concept of accentuation may seem a bit complicated, but in fact it is quite simple.
The word "accentuation" (from the Latin. Accentus - stress) means a pronounced accent on something.
In other words, this feature lies in the fact that some character traits are unusually developed, which causes the inferiority of other, less developed traits.
Probably, everyone saw how small children, at the sight of strangers, settle down to one of them and begin to smile, while at the sight of others frown and run away.
This is due to the fact that facial features are very closely related to our character traits. Children intuitively feel this, "scanning" the face of a stranger.
And adults at a deeply subconscious level can "feel" a good or bad person in front of them. This also happens because our brain is able to “read” information from the characteristic features of a person’s face.
It is important to understand that the character of a person largely determines how his life will be formed, whether he will succeed.
19th century English writer William Thackeray wrote:
"Sow an act - and you will reap a habit, sow a habit - and you will reap a character, sow a character - and you will reap destiny."